Soul Mates

Soul Mates

What Is It: Much of what we are fed through our Media and Entertainment often gives us a very distorted view on the concept of 'Love' within Partnership and other forms of relationships.

However, for many of us, we often find ourselves experiencing a profound 'Awakening' to Self through another person. Many of us spend our lives overly identified with status-symbols or long-narratives we've crafted about ourselves which is rooted in unhealthy childhood wounding patterning.

Yet, it is through the meeting of another, that catalyzes a 'remembrance' within us that we are much more than the mental narratives we've attached to about ourselves.. A 'Soul-Mate' is one who truly helps us awaken to our true 'Soul-Self'. It is a relationship that does not even need to be romantic in nature. It simply activates our heart to greater capacities than before.  

How Does It Happen: For many of us, our relationships are often us simply re-creating unhealthy familial dynamics or us simply bonding with people who share similar interests and cultural values.

However, at a certain point, when we're about to move through our 'Egoic-Structure', we may meet someone who 'sparks' something deeper in us. It may not even be an 'immediate knowing', this person could start off as a simple acquaintance. Yet, over time, we can find ourselves drawing this person into our lives over and over again.

The more time we spend with this person, we may find ourselves suddenly feeling at 'Home'. We start noticing deeper positive aspects of ourselves coming out that we haven't seen or experienced before. Our 'Soul-Mates' aren't consciously doing anything to bring about

this experience, their energy is simply activating greater dimensions of our True-Self to come out.

How Does It Happen: When we connect with a 'Soul-Mate' on a romantic level, there is often an energy between the two partners that is being shared/corded into. The energy is there to help both people evolve and grow at an accelerated rate. It is normal for two people to come together romantically and then both experience profound and startling 'Awakenings' while in the relationship.

Typically, this energy will rip up to the surface patterns of Co-Dependency, Abandonment Wounds, and anything else that leaves us feeling in 'lack' or 'needing another'. However, this relationship is an opportunity not to cycle through our old Trauma-Patterns, but rather to provide corrective experiences to them in this relationship.

Our Partner is not there to 'heal' us but rather to provide a healthy presence that helps us uncover our deeper wounds and deeper gifts while we do the work to integrate and shed what no longer serves us.

How It Impacts Us (Ego to Soul)- When a Romantic Relationship is catalyzing our first 'Ego-Death' and profound 'Heart-Opening' it can be a very disorienting and confusing experience. As previously mentioned, a lot of old 'toxic-patterns' rooted in Generational-Trauma can begin to arise. 

This level of intimacy can drive one or even both of the partners to want to run away from the dynamic. Our old masks and coping mechanisms likely no-longer serve us the ways they used to. This is why it's so important to still be able to communicate with our partners and those around us what's coming up for us.

It is also incredibly important that both partners still have firm boundaries around what they will and will not allow while in a relationship. As these dynamics bring up our unresolved wounds, we can also spiral in themwith our partner until it becomes toxic.

How It Impacts Us (Soul to Higher-Self) - If partners can not evolve together or they both 'descend' too far into old Trauma-Patterning, the energy of the relationship will kick them out.

Yet, there is another dimension to 'Soul-Mate' partnerships.

There is a certain point where an individual who's been doing the work on themselves for awhile will magnetize someone who is also very far along their journey as well (this doesn't always mean 'spiritually advanced').

At this point, both people will recognize very quickly the signs that their Higher-Selves are in 'Union' and that this is now just being anchored into the Physical Dimension. At this point, both partners are typically working together to integrate both polarities of the 'Masculine and Feminine' energies within them (*This looks different for everyone). At this point, both partners are also aware of their purpose and what they're here to do together.

New-Age Sphere & 'Twin-Flame Delusion'- A lot of teachings arounds these concepts within the 'New-Age' Sphere are very outdated and can even drive us into potentially abusive relationship dynamics. Unfortunately, 'The One' does not exist (because that's already YOU!)

Whether or not we feel a 'deeper connection' with an individual, does not mean we forsake our core values, boundaries, and self-respect. A lot of us are coming across teachings that outwardly tell us if we see signs of a 'Soul-Mate' that we abandon everything about our lives and who we are to make it work because we will never find another individual like them.

These teachings are patently false. Even at a deeper union between Higher-Selves, if the energy behind the relationship ends up not molding well with our physical-selves and what we need to stay healthy, our Higher-Selves will cut loose and not let us spiral in it.

'Growing in Partnership'- There is no single way to be in a healthy relationship/partnership. However, it is always important to notice if we are ever feeling 'drained' or 'energetically-raped' while in partnership. If this is the case, it means the dynamic may no longer be in alignment or the relationship itself has become incredibly parasitic.

Our relationships are always here to serve us on a deeper level. That doesn't mean we cut and run when things get tough, but it's also important to not 'enable' our partner's toxic traits or patterns that need to be cleaned up.

It's always important to have a healthy life that exists outside of our romantic partner. We need to have hobbies and interests that are our own, while also having loving friendships that exist beyond our relationship. If we notice these aspects of our lives dwindling away while in relationship or our partner encouraging us to shed these elements, we must re-evaluate!